Online Matchmaking
Internet dating is interesting. It's very different from just bumping into someone and then hitting it off because you get to review information about the person before asking them out. The most unusual, and perhaps frustrating thing about meeting girls online is because the ones with profiles I like always live really far away. I have never contacted a local girl before, judging by their profiles I could tell it would probably be a waste of time. That said, you would assume in the opposite situation a person whom you'd never be interested in would also not be interested in you. However, I've been contacted by quite a few girls whose profiles I disagreed with so vehemently I almost vomited. And yet still they seemed interested, so nice guy that I am (everyone deserves a chance) I've gone out with these people. No sparks. I can't for the life of me understand why some of these people contact me, is it just because of looks? Did they even READ my profile and see how dissimilar we are? Well anyway, it's not that these people are bad but in most cases there just can be no chemistry between us and it always shocks me when they don't initially recognize this. As for the people I am interested in, like I said, they live far away. In one of the best examples, VERY far away. I met a girl online a few months ago and for the most part we've really hit it off. We've maintained contact for quite a while now, and I've even helped her with her homework. She lives in England and we IM each other almost daily. I've seen her picture and she's seen mine but so far no voice or webcam chat yet (she lost her mic, and no cam). I used a website to calculate the distance between here and Manchester and I think it was nearly 5,000 miles. So she's not exactly my next-door neighbor. But who knows, we may still meet someday. I met Olivia on Match.com in a rather sneaky and cheap way. However, Match isn't the first online service I've used. I also have an Occupied account, which I mainly use for fun quizzes and I also have an eharmony account. If you're curious about how that went take a look at this: Unable To Match
EHarmony is based upon a complex matching system developed through extensive research with married couples. One of the requirements for successful matching is that participants to fall within certain defined profiles. If we find that we will not be able to match a user using these profiles, we feel it is only fair to inform them early in the process.
We are so convinced of the importance of creating compatible matches to help people establish happy, lasting relationships that we sometimes choose not to provide service rather than risk an uncertain match.
Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. This occurs for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand, and we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time.
You can still receive your free Personality Profile by clicking here.
By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values.
Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.
You will take issue and not shy away from confrontation when others disagree with how you feel or think.
Some see you as cautious, but once you decide upon an action you can be direct and demanding.
You can be quite cautious and not trust people you don't know. Once you get to know them you can be warm and disarming.
You are tenacious and will make things happen even when faced with many obstacles.
You are the type of person who gets things done and gets them done right. Often you can be intense and have a tendency of forcing your way of doing things on others.
You have a natural enthusiasm for the activities you prefer. Because of your enthusiasm, you may forget that others have different wants and needs.
You have a high interest in the new, the unusual and the adventurous. You may also be curious and have a wide range of interests, preferring an ever-changing environment.
You don't actively seek out conflict; however, you will confront those who stand between you and what you want to happen.
You respect those who win out against the odds and show persistence. You set high goals for yourself and others.
Your primary social strategy is making things happen and happen now. Usually very active, you thrive on challenge. When the going gets tough, you get going.
In social situations, you prefer variety, adventure and the unusual. You may lose interest if you feel a situation is becoming routine. As a result, you must be kept busy and involved with making things happen.
You can get so involved with an activity that you take charge, and this can frustrate others. You don't mean to take charge, it's just
Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial _expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.
Having a variety of results at stake brings out the best in you. Your great strength is in directing yourself and others toward specific activities results.
Your high ego traits coupled with impatience may have others read you as arrogant at times. Others only appreciate this when they understand that you need quick results, challenges and competition.
You have a natural competitive style. It is important for you to feed that competitive spirit, while also showing more patience with those who choose not to be so competitive.
You are active in the things you do and in your communication. Your rapid mental activity becomes apparent when, rather than listening to others, you will be thinking of what you might say next.
You may lack empathy and hurt the feelings of others without realizing it--this is not intentional.
Not having a climate of challenges and competition may cause you to create such a climate. You perform best under pressure, and may assume that others want the same...your assumption is not always true.
Verify that the message is understood.
Support results, not the person, if you agree.
Ask specific questions--preferably "WHAT" questions.
Present ideas logically--be efficient.
Motivate and persuade by referring to objectives and RESULTS.
Be on time.
Be ready at the exact time.
Expect acceptance without many questions or objections.
Take issue with the facts, not the person, if you disagree.
Attempt to isolate from interruptions.
Provide options, rather than opinions.
Verify that the message is understood.
Support results, not the person, if you agree.
Ask specific questions--preferably "WHAT" questions.
Present ideas logically--be efficient.
Motivate and persuade by referring to objectives and RESULTS.
Be on time.
Be ready at the exact time.
Expect acceptance without many questions or objections.
Take issue with the facts, not the person, if you disagree.
Attempt to isolate from interruptions.
Provide options, rather than opinions.
Verify that the message is understood.
Support results, not the person, if you agree.
Ask specific questions--preferably "WHAT" questions.
Present ideas logically--be efficient.
Motivate and persuade by referring to objectives and RESULTS.
Be on time.
Be ready at the exact time.
Expect acceptance without many questions or objections.
Take issue with the facts, not the person, if you disagree.
Attempt to isolate from interruptions.
Provide options, rather than opinions.
Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but others may surprise you. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.
You place a high value on being direct and honest when expressing thoughts and feelings.
You have the ability to juggle lots of time demands simultaneously.
You tend to be tenacious about solving problems, not liking to give up until something is resolved.
You like to take the initiative when something needs to be done.
You tend to excite others into getting involved with your interests.
You like to initiate new activities.
You have a quick wit and a great sense of humor.
You generally don't like to back away from a challenge.
You like to take action and see that things get done.
You enjoy situations where you can demonstrate your skill or mastery of a subject.
You tend to enjoy life and share that enjoyment with others.
You like to analyze problems and discuss their possible solutions before taking action.
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.
You may want:
An audience to perform to and entertain.
Freedom from detail.
Activities involving contact with many people.
Equal relations with others.
A friendly, favorable social environment.
Many activities, so there is never a dull moment.
Others to work and play as hard as you do.
Acceptance in a variety of groups.
As much travel as possible: short trips, long trips and excursions.
Social recognition of your accomplishments.
Others to "catch up" to your speed of doing things.
Support of your ideas and dreams.
When I first met Emma I suggested we use blogs as a way to communicate but she thinks that they are not private enough. So I guess it would be unwise to post all of our correspondence here.....for now. I'd say for the most part the EHarmony profile is correct. Another great thing about the end of school is that now I can finally talk with Emma more. Her country is 6 hours ahead of mine. That means when I got home from school and used the computer around 4:00 PM it was 10:00 pm there. Or as she would say 22:00.
EHarmony is based upon a complex matching system developed through extensive research with married couples. One of the requirements for successful matching is that participants to fall within certain defined profiles. If we find that we will not be able to match a user using these profiles, we feel it is only fair to inform them early in the process.
We are so convinced of the importance of creating compatible matches to help people establish happy, lasting relationships that we sometimes choose not to provide service rather than risk an uncertain match.
Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. This occurs for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand, and we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time.
You can still receive your free Personality Profile by clicking here.
By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values.
Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.
You will take issue and not shy away from confrontation when others disagree with how you feel or think.
Some see you as cautious, but once you decide upon an action you can be direct and demanding.
You can be quite cautious and not trust people you don't know. Once you get to know them you can be warm and disarming.
You are tenacious and will make things happen even when faced with many obstacles.
You are the type of person who gets things done and gets them done right. Often you can be intense and have a tendency of forcing your way of doing things on others.
You have a natural enthusiasm for the activities you prefer. Because of your enthusiasm, you may forget that others have different wants and needs.
You have a high interest in the new, the unusual and the adventurous. You may also be curious and have a wide range of interests, preferring an ever-changing environment.
You don't actively seek out conflict; however, you will confront those who stand between you and what you want to happen.
You respect those who win out against the odds and show persistence. You set high goals for yourself and others.
Your primary social strategy is making things happen and happen now. Usually very active, you thrive on challenge. When the going gets tough, you get going.
In social situations, you prefer variety, adventure and the unusual. You may lose interest if you feel a situation is becoming routine. As a result, you must be kept busy and involved with making things happen.
You can get so involved with an activity that you take charge, and this can frustrate others. You don't mean to take charge, it's just
Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial _expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.
Having a variety of results at stake brings out the best in you. Your great strength is in directing yourself and others toward specific activities results.
Your high ego traits coupled with impatience may have others read you as arrogant at times. Others only appreciate this when they understand that you need quick results, challenges and competition.
You have a natural competitive style. It is important for you to feed that competitive spirit, while also showing more patience with those who choose not to be so competitive.
You are active in the things you do and in your communication. Your rapid mental activity becomes apparent when, rather than listening to others, you will be thinking of what you might say next.
You may lack empathy and hurt the feelings of others without realizing it--this is not intentional.
Not having a climate of challenges and competition may cause you to create such a climate. You perform best under pressure, and may assume that others want the same...your assumption is not always true.
Verify that the message is understood.
Support results, not the person, if you agree.
Ask specific questions--preferably "WHAT" questions.
Present ideas logically--be efficient.
Motivate and persuade by referring to objectives and RESULTS.
Be on time.
Be ready at the exact time.
Expect acceptance without many questions or objections.
Take issue with the facts, not the person, if you disagree.
Attempt to isolate from interruptions.
Provide options, rather than opinions.
Verify that the message is understood.
Support results, not the person, if you agree.
Ask specific questions--preferably "WHAT" questions.
Present ideas logically--be efficient.
Motivate and persuade by referring to objectives and RESULTS.
Be on time.
Be ready at the exact time.
Expect acceptance without many questions or objections.
Take issue with the facts, not the person, if you disagree.
Attempt to isolate from interruptions.
Provide options, rather than opinions.
Verify that the message is understood.
Support results, not the person, if you agree.
Ask specific questions--preferably "WHAT" questions.
Present ideas logically--be efficient.
Motivate and persuade by referring to objectives and RESULTS.
Be on time.
Be ready at the exact time.
Expect acceptance without many questions or objections.
Take issue with the facts, not the person, if you disagree.
Attempt to isolate from interruptions.
Provide options, rather than opinions.
Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but others may surprise you. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.
You place a high value on being direct and honest when expressing thoughts and feelings.
You have the ability to juggle lots of time demands simultaneously.
You tend to be tenacious about solving problems, not liking to give up until something is resolved.
You like to take the initiative when something needs to be done.
You tend to excite others into getting involved with your interests.
You like to initiate new activities.
You have a quick wit and a great sense of humor.
You generally don't like to back away from a challenge.
You like to take action and see that things get done.
You enjoy situations where you can demonstrate your skill or mastery of a subject.
You tend to enjoy life and share that enjoyment with others.
You like to analyze problems and discuss their possible solutions before taking action.
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.
You may want:
An audience to perform to and entertain.
Freedom from detail.
Activities involving contact with many people.
Equal relations with others.
A friendly, favorable social environment.
Many activities, so there is never a dull moment.
Others to work and play as hard as you do.
Acceptance in a variety of groups.
As much travel as possible: short trips, long trips and excursions.
Social recognition of your accomplishments.
Others to "catch up" to your speed of doing things.
Support of your ideas and dreams.
When I first met Emma I suggested we use blogs as a way to communicate but she thinks that they are not private enough. So I guess it would be unwise to post all of our correspondence here.....for now. I'd say for the most part the EHarmony profile is correct. Another great thing about the end of school is that now I can finally talk with Emma more. Her country is 6 hours ahead of mine. That means when I got home from school and used the computer around 4:00 PM it was 10:00 pm there. Or as she would say 22:00.
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